Grief Has many Faces

Sometimes a big life transition happens such as a death, divorce, or redundancy; or a few major losses happen all around the same time, and you are forced to reevaluate your life.

It can leave you feeling broken and overwhelmed. 

You lose an identity that was a big part of you, like a job or a title, or your status as a wife.

It can be so hard to get past these types of losses because you feel like you’ve lost a part of you.

Maybe you thought you’d be a mother, but now it’s too late; Or you’d planned to have a career which never happened because you chose to have a family instead.

These losses only dawn once it's too late and can leave you feeling devastated and stuck wondering  “what if, if only..”   

You’re left with no idea of what you are

supposed to be doing with your life. It's like everything has just fallen away. 

When you feel like this, you look back on your life and wonder why it’s all changed.

How did it get this bad?

Who have I become? 

What do I do now?

You don’t recognise yourself.

You’ve realised that you can’t just talk your way out of this. You can feel it in your body and it needs to be addressed at that level. 

You’ve probably already tried processing your grief with talking therapy, or talking to friends. Maybe you've tried writing sad poems or songs or doing a little ceremony to try and let go, but you still feel no better. 

Grief can cause you to hold onto patterns of tension, across your chest or shoulders or in your jaw; bracing against an impending doom, like you are carrying the world on your shoulders.

I’m suggesting a different way to process your grief, a gentle method to release the tension held in your body, and change the negative thinking patterns in your mind.

When your body holds onto grief in tension, it often presents as a painful back, tight shoulders, digestive problems, or disturbed sleep. 

You can become stuck in patterns of negative thinking, feelings of hopelessness, leading to depression, and anxiety that make you want to curl up into a ball and hide away from the world. 

It’s as if the real you is trapped somewhere inside a malfunctioning body

Grief doesn't have to define you, life’s transitions don’t have to be so hard,  even when it’s devastating and feels impossible to go on. 

You don't have to hold onto these unhelpful patterns of tension in your body.

You don't have to hold onto the grief.

The solution is to let it go, but you’ve never been shown how. 

And so instead the tension builds, causing you to hold on more tightly, and keep repeating those unhelpful patterns of holding on, leading to discomfort, distress and sometimes even chronic pain. 

It's time to let it go.

You know you need to sort this out.

You can’t carry on living like this.

You don’t have to live like this.

One of the surprising benefits of this work will be the changes you notice in your body, and your nervous system:

• You may find that your back pain gets better, and other aches and pains are improving. So you can get back to a life without this unbearable pain. 
• You may find that you're sleeping better, so that you wake up feeling refreshed, have better concentration and less irritability. 
• You may notice that you are less reactive, because you've learned to pause before acting or speaking. 
• You may even notice that your digestion is working better than before. 
• You might find that you are not so negative and find a little joy creeping back into your life. 
• You may notice that you bounce back from setbacks more quickly. 

You just want to be able to enjoy normal things again; to be able to get on with your life and finally get past this hurdle.

To let go of what's holding you back.

Whether you choose to work with me or someone else this is what I would recommend.

This is a set of tools that you can use to gently process the grief in a way that helps you to stop reacting and start responding to the world from a place of inner composure.

The beauty is that you also have them to continue using throughout your life. 

What I offer is a simple toolkit of solutions that help to get to the root of your problem, and keep on top of it, so that you feel better for longer and are more able to cope with those difficult days. 

The tools are accessible, enjoyable and easy to fit into your daily routine.

Short practices that you can sneak into a five or ten minute break, or after a long drive, or at the end of a busy day. 

Practices that will relax you before you go to sleep. Because, right now, I know that you don’t have the energy for learning something that takes a long time, or your body hurts, so you need to take a gentle approach.

These methods are tailored to your individual needs and can be safely practiced at home without having to sign up for years of expensive therapies and classes. 

I provide simple, practical support to help you to process and heal from your grief, understand what you're experiencing and finally find some peace and contentment so that you can move forward with your life. 

Sometimes a consistent short practice can be more powerful than spending hours on a yoga mat or meditation cushion. 

Why? Because over time these small practices seep into your life and become a welcome break in your day, a pause where you can switch off for a few moments and gather your thoughts, and this can build into a positive habit that really supports your life, no matter what life throws your way. 

I invite you to check out some of the practical support I can provide.