Grief Reset
Support for people living with multiple unresolved, heartbreaking losses.
Because there is a way to feel normal again
How to gently release your pain so that you can finally move on with your life.
When you lose a loved one it can feel desperate. A partner, a parent, a child.
When it's more than one loss in a short time it can be unbearable. Sometimes you feel like you can’ t carry on.
There's a name for it, Compound Grief
Sometimes you just want to stay in bed all day, it’s too hard to face the world.
There’s a huge hole in your life and you feel like you’ll never get back to normal again.
Your life feels like it’s been shattered into tiny pieces and you don’t know how to put it back together again. It was too much all at once.
You swing between anger and despair, sometimes you are completely numb and sometimes you could cry for hours.
And the world goes on around you.
You feel completely alone. No one understands, and you wonder if life will ever return to normal.
Every small reminder, a birthday, an anniversary, Christmas, mother’s day, father’s day…so many reminders that send you back to square one again.
Just when you thought you’d turned a corner.
When you lose two or more loved ones in short succession, these feelings are often compounded.
In fact you barely have time to process the first loss when a second one happens and maybe a third.
This causes you to pause or park those feelings of grief for that person just so you can face the next one.
This is Compound Grief.
And when this happens, you start to hold onto those feelings in your body, lethargy, brain fog, lower back pain, shoulder or neck pain, possibly your digestion has stopped working properly. You’re living in the stress response and everything around you adds to that feeling of tension and pain.
You feel numb, like you’re living your life through the lens of a camera .
You feel like you should be over it by now. The loss happened a few months ago, but because another one happened, and then another, you parked those feelings, frozen in time, and you didn't process the grief of the first loss.
It is said that time is supposed to be a "great healer" but instead, on birthdays, anniversaries, it all comes flooding back.
Because you parked the grief when it happened, the birthday hits you like a ton weight and you're back to day one.
It can take a long time to get over a number of losses in close succession.
Often the first loss isn't grieved until a year or so down the line.
You just want to get your life back to normal again and be free of this everlasting pain.
You've tried talking therapies and they worked to a point, but they don't seem to have resolved matters completely and you still become overwhelmed on special days and feel like you can't go on...
I help people living with unresolved grief from multiple losses, to gently release their pain so that they can finally move on with their lives.
Using a blend of TRE, yoga, meditation and breath work, I will help you to process your pain and teach you how to regulate your nervous system so that you are better able to bounce back from those inevitable "special" days that are currently sending you back to day one.
Grief can be tricky to navigate and denial, anger and depression seem to be recurring themes. It's not always linear either, especially when you're dealing with multiple losses.
Denial features heavily, especially for the initial loss, and anger seems to always lurk in the background.
From my experience, the more time passes, the more depression starts to appear, and you're left wondering if there will ever be full acceptance and a return to normal life.
So It's really important to have something that can support you and cushion you from the rest of life's ups and downs.
I have carefully crafted three bundles that are designed to help you to navigate and process your grief in a gentle yet effective way.
By learning to understand the body's signals at the level of feelings and sensations, you will be able to understand when you are moving towards reactivity and regulate your nervous system to a more grounded and less reactive place.
Each bundle is designed to build up a daily practice that will help you to feel more in control and eventually lead to a sense of peace and contentment.
Each bundle is designed to be used within its time scale to enable you to gain the most benefits.
These bundles are for you if:
- You have lost a someone close to you and are struggling to move on with your life.
- You have experienced multiple losses in a short space of time and are struggling to cope.
- You have tried talking therapies but feel you aren't getting anywhere.
- You are looking for a strategy that will support you for the rest of your life.
- You understand that these losses are part of the impermanence of life but want to understand that more fully.
- You have time to devote to the practices, at least an hour a day which can be split into smaller chunks.
- You have the time to complete the package within it's timeframe so that you really notice the benefits.
- You are ready to move on with your life and embrace the changes.
These bundles will not work for you if:
- You are looking for a talking therapy - I am not a therapist. You need to contact Cruse bereavement counselling on 0800 808 1677.
- You do not have time to devote to the practices, they simply will not work in the same way.
- You are unable to set aside time to attend the sessions within the allotted timeframe, too much time between each session means that you will lose momentum and have to keep recapping.
- You are looking for a quick fix, although you will start to feel better quite soon using these practices, their benefits accumulate gradually over time.
Grief Reset Bundles
Working with me over two months, four months or six months, I will teach you how to:
- Learn to regulate your nervous system and ground yourself so you can cope with anger and depression when they arise.
- Build resilience, so that you can more easily bounce back from those days that feel like you're back at square one again.
- Discover a sense of peace and equanimity so that you can face life's challenges.
- Discover a sense of Joy again using gratitude practices and daily affirmations.
Using a bespoke blend of Yoga, Meditation and TRE, I will guide you to learn these simple tools so that you will always have them to support your life.
Dependant on which bundle you choose, you will receive either five, ten or twenty, one to one sessions, in person, each lasting 75 minutes. You will be guided through a bespoke sequence of yoga, breath work, TRE and meditation, tailored to your needs.
You will also be given a series of individual gratitude practices and daily affirmations, specifically designed to suit your mood at that time.
Every bundle begins with an initial assessment where you will be familiarised with the practices and we can work out a plan together to suit you. This will mean that you are more likely to make these practices a daily habit.
Each session is 1:1 and in person. Dependant on your situation I can also work with you online.
If this resonates with you but you are still not sure, please book a 15 minute free consultation call to find out more and see if you'd like to work with me.